Despair…

The journey into the depths of despair has great rewards. Those who know pain have a wide and deep container to hold fear and love. And they have the gift to know it’s okay to not be okay. They are okay to move through their layers of anger and sadness.

It’s okay to not be okay.

We all have our 'stuff' in life to deal with. Everyone does. Some people have the capacity to rise through the ashes and some never return. Why? What determines how we deal with pain and suffering? What determines how we each react to the same event? -Emotional intelligence.

Are you okay to not be okay?

How were emotions done in the home you were raised?

Can you hold yourself though the storm?

Can you hold yourself steady in chaos?

Do you allow yourself to be swept up in the drama?

How do you stay in your own lane?

Are you okay in times when things are unstable?

The trick is… knowing this, holding yourself with love, gentleness and kindness. To move through what the heart needs to feel in order to open, soften and release.

This can be overwhelming.

Will you be able to handle it?

Once you are supported the first time to know you can, you can continue to heal yourself, meet your raw emotions and be okay to ‘not be okay’ when the need arises.

Balancing the light and dark.

Healing your shadows.

Being able to hold yourself steady through your full emotional range.

Rather than shutting down, closing your heart, being mean, putting up walls, or numbing out.

When you close your heart to what it actually wants to feel, the trade-of is… you close your heart to the joy and pleasures of living. You close your heart to connection and vulnerability.

Do you know how to live with an open heart, even in the face of your fears?

The beginning of all change is to observe yourself with a playful curiosity.